So did you do it? The personality test?
Here's the thing, the reason why I got so excited about that personality test, because it was so unlike many other ones I've seen. Like this example:
Like, the ones where everyone gets the same "fortune" or "horoscope" and each person says, "yeah, that is like me..."
I jumped on board, because Aaron and my conclusions were TOTALLY different---just like WE are. So, anyway, it was funny to note that, indeed, they really were "RIGHT ON" with a lot of personality traits that we each have.
And, a special thanks to one of my all time awesome-est friends, Em Hutch, for taking the test and feeling good that it confirmed that YES, she IS a good teacher (it's intuitive) and now she can have relief for all the grad school she's doing. Nice work. Love it.
p.s. the comment I made in the last post, "PLUS, they are legit and not your mom's crazy cousin with a poodle perm and long sparkly nails (Auntie Fran, I know what you're thinking... this person is made up)."
----there is NO Auntie Fran. I thought it was so funny when Aaron suggested I write that. So, I died laughing and wrote it---in case you thought I was cruel and mean to an Auntie Fran I had. I would NEVER tell someone they had a poodle perm. I might think it, but would never say it. :)
So, you want to know somethings about me, and then Aaron? Okay, sure. I'll tell.
My code was ESFJ (Caregiver, Guardian, Provider).
They love to talk with others, and will often strike up a conversation with strangers and chat pleasantly about any topic that comes to mind.
They are hurt by indifference and don't understand unkindness. (I've never understood why people are mean. Never. And, I don't forgive very easily when people are just plain jerks. It's true. I don't. So, beware if you've crossed me or my family/friends. hA!)
An ESFJ may be prone to being quite insecure, and focus all of their attention on pleasing others. (yes, people-pleaser. that's me. maybe why I used to get hives every time we went home to Utah. oops. that's lame. don't worry, I'm getting over it. The last few trips=NO HIVES! woot. woot.)
Aaron was an INTJ (The Scientist, Rational, the Mastermind). (by the way, he loves that he is called a "mastermind".)
Masterminds are head and shoulders above all the rest in contingency planning.
Masterminds are rare, comprising no more than, say, one percent of the population, and they are rarely encountered outside their office, factory, school, or laboratory.
The INTJ is driven to translate their ideas into a plan or system that is usually readily explainable, rather than to do a direct translation of their thoughts.
They dislike messiness and inefficiency, and anything that is muddled or unclear. (Oops, Sorry Aaron. Remember how you married an "artist"? Stinks for you.)
Decisions come easily to them; in fact, they can hardly rest until they have things settled and decided. But before they decide anything, they must do the research. Masterminds are highly theoretical, but they insist on looking at all available data before they embrace an idea, and they are suspicious of any statement that is based on shoddy research, or that is not checked against reality. (case and point? most recently? buying a new car. honestly, this boy NEVER stops looking at prices in EVERY major city in the U.S.A. trying to find THE best deal, THE best car for the money... every decision he makes is WELL researched. And, if I tell him something I've "heard" or "read" and he's not familiar with it, he wants me to name my source and then he checks it out. He loves it when I tell him (like in Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants), "It's true! I read it." "Where?" "In a magazine." ha. he loves that. Amen to this one!.)
Melissa: ESFJs are most comfortable with structured environments. They're not likely to enjoy having to do things which involve abstract, theoretical concepts, or impersonal analysis.
Aaron: INTJs focus their energy on observing the world, and generating ideas and possibilities. Their mind constantly gathers information and makes associations about it. They are tremendously insightful and usually are very quick to understand new ideas.
Melissa: ESFJs respect and believe in the laws and rules of authority, and believe that others should do so as well. They're traditional, and prefer to do things in the established way, rather than venturing into uncharted territory.
Aaron: Masterminds do not feel bound by established rules and procedures, and traditional authority does not impress them, nor do slogans or catchwords. (Am I not my mother's daughter? I'm all about catchwords and slogans! And, hello, I am a big rule follower.)
Melissa: Providers show a delightful fascination with news of their friends and neighbors. If we wish to know what's been going on in the local community, school, or church, they're happy to fill us in on all the details.
Providers are extremely sensitive to the feelings of others, which makes them perhaps the most sympathetic of all the types, but which also leaves them somewhat self-conscious, that is, highly sensitive to what others think of them. Loving and affectionate themselves, they need to be loved in return.
Aaron: INTJs spend a lot of time inside their own minds, and may have little interest in the other people's thoughts or feelings. Unless their Feeling side is developed, they may have problems giving other people the level of intimacy that is needed.
Indeed, the INTJ is not overly demonstrative of their affections, and is likely to not give as much praise or positive support as others may need or desire. That doesn't mean that he or she doesn't truly have affection or regard for others, they simply do not typically feel the need to express it.
Melissa: ESFJs are focused on reading other people. They have a strong need to be liked, and have a natural tendency to want to control their environment. (A little embarrassing, I'll admit. "a strong need to be liked..." that's awkward. But, I will attest to the wanting to "control [my] environment". That's why I always drive separate to functions or events---I always want to have a get-away. Amen. )
Aaron: INTJs are ambitious, self-confident, deliberate, long-range thinkers. (I love that mine says multiple times that I'm "self-conscious". That's rad for me.)
------so, I guess we're pretty different. But, luckily, it all works out.
Didn't Paula Abdul have it right when she said,
"I take--2 steps forward
I take--2 steps back
We come together
Cuz* opposites attract"
*true lyric spelling. thank you for inquiring.
Anyway, good times. It's been a cool thing for us. Like, for example, on Saturday when Aaron was driving me crazy with all the times he was checking online for car options in the middle of cleaning the kitchen, I wanted to yell, "TURN OFF THAT BLASTED COMPUTER! Just finish those dishes!"---but then I remembered reading about his personality..."insists on looking at all available data"---so I closed my mouth and shook my head.
He, of course, got around to FINISHING the dishes without me asking/reminding. So, all is well.
I understand him a little better and he understands me too.
Good times in the Wood house. Good times.