So, I told Aaron that it isn't very fun to admit mistakes on your blog (me getting upset about Til's (yes, that's her preferred title these days) bed wetting).
He told me to just write this,
"We're perfect. Everything's fine. We don't need anybody's help."
We both started laughing. He pulled "a funny". Good one, A-dawg.
But, isn't it amazing how often times you read blogs and feel like that's the case?
Well, we're keeping it real---bad parenting, mistakes, worries, and all. The ups and the downs. The wins and the failures.
Anyway, I just wanted to give a big HOLLAH to you, my friends.
The comments were great (as always) and such a breath of fresh air. One of my best friends, Sarah, wrote at the end of her comment,
"Don't stress it. We're all in this together. Love ya."
And, then another favorite friend, Miss Jen, wrote right after her, "I agree with everyone and it's soooo refreshing to hear it again, that we are not alone in this motherhood adventure."
Amen. Amen. Amen.
So, thank you for reminding me that it's much cooler to put a Pull Up on the girl, rather than wash all the bedding night after night.
Thank you for reminding me that this isn't the first or the last time that a kid does this.
Thank you for teaching me.
Thank you for encouraging me.
Thank you for sharing advice on how to get back to sleep at night (love the idea of doing relaxation techniques! tried it last night and it worked!).
And, just for checking in from time to time.
I feel like I'm accepting a Grammy or something.
I'll end now, but not before I share what one of my sister's best friends, Mary, shared about our situation... I loved it. It was easier to just post from a chat they had. I hope that's okay. :) If not, uh oh! :) I edited it a little bit and pulled out my favorite parts.
Mary: There's just not much you can do to avoid the parent insomnia.
the thing about kids is that no matter what they're doing, good or bad, it's just a stage
Mary: the lying is just not a big deal
at that age, i wouldn't even call it lying
if it were a 5 or 6 year old, yes.
Mary: 3 year old, no way
10:16 AM me: i think you should write a book.
if not lying, she just didn't want to make mom mad??
10:17 AM Mary: right
10:18 AM well there's no real distinction between things as they are and things as you want them to be at that age
me: interesting.
Mary: when she dresses up, she doesn't think "i'm pretending to be a princess." she really is a princess
10:19 AM Mary: so if she could "pretend" that it was the water bottle, then it was and not her
Totally enlightening to me. I loved it. And, it makes so much sense. I mean, the second Tillie puts on her dress ups and a crown, she acts differently. She wants to dance with her chin up high with someone in the middle of the family room. Pretty insightful.
Anyway, things are improving rapidly around these parts. Thanks again to all y'all.
Lots of love,
melis
8 comments:
love it. :)
thank you for adding the link to "we're all in this together". did you know that zach and what's her name broke up?? miss c. has a few opinions about it. he is pretty darn cute though.
tangent. sorry.
my other favorite part of mary's comments was the idea of not making things into a big deal - the low to little reaction of doing things. it's not bad, it's not good, it just is. i really really liked that idea she had.
remember how i am coming to visit in just 21 sleeps!! ugh. seems sooo far away!
ps
just checked your pages. they work. you can update them while i write a world famous book while we hang out. ;-)
ha...I just read your post below and know what you mean by how hard this sleep deprivation is. Amelia is killing me right now, waking up multiple times still and she is 10 months! Sleep deprivation is so hard--especially on the patience through out the day! I actually just starting crying to Matt on the way home from church yesterday because our RS lesson was on service and all these ways we should be reaching out to others. I just totally lost it and was like---seriously??? I can't even keep up with my own kids and laundry and meal times and everything else, much less dragging 4 kids to the grocery store so I can make meals for others. I feel like I am just in this fog right now--from no sleep. anyways, I am rambling. but i think these issues effect all young mothers.
My only comment about the night wetting is it might because she is a heavy sleeper and just doesn't wake up when she needs to go (I had a brother who wore a pull up till he was 8 because he was such a heavy sleeper). I've been really lucky that all my kids have never had issues at night and we've never needed pull ups but Elizabeth did start having a few accidents last week (after being potty trained for over 2 months) during the day. We figured it probably came down to the fact that she needed more one on one from us--that she was doing it for attention. Which is usually always the solution to any of the problems we have with our kids--they need more one on one :) Good luck with it all!
i don't know what you're talking about. we're PERFECT PARENTS over here at the pettijohns...nevermind the fact that our little emergency room trip the other night was due to MY failing to strap the highchair in correctly.
our motto is: it all boils down to grace. receiving grace from the Lord, because let's face it, we can't do it on our own. and extending grace to our little people. thus, teaching them firsthand all about God's love & grace.
you are a WONDERFUL mommy.
Sarah, is right, don't stress it. I promise we all know what being a mom is all about and bed wetting is just one of those awful things we deal with, but don't get too worried about it all. Jackson will still on occassion wet the bed and it is so frustrating (lets just say it happened last night and I was so upset with a full day ahead that I had to add laundry to the list), but they are still great kids and they truly don't mean to. I know it is super worriesome to Jackson when he does it now, that hasn't always been the case, but it is now. Poor kid. Anyway, I tried to potty train Jackson at 2 1/2 and he did great during the days, but all i had was frustration at night. So eventually I just backed off and didn't attempt to potty train Jackson through the night until he was 4. So no worries. He actually just sort of started to doing the whole potty in the middle of the night/keeping the pull up dry on his own. I went with his ques, not mine and it really has been so much better. Love you lots!!! Try not to worry kids do things at their own rate.
I just read this post and the one before. It makes me laugh. Don't worry Russ wears pullups to bed and lies too!
"Russell, did you hurt Lukey?"
"NO!" Lie Lie Lie, I saw it.
Funny little people.
I love, adore, appreciate, cherish, can't-get-enough of your blog's keeping it real. Love it. THANK YOU!
Ok -
1) Thank you for being my #1 fan. How lucky am I?
2) I feel bad I didn't comment on your last post, but I have no experience in this realm because I am refusing to potty train Amelia until she is 100% ready - how is that for bad parenting? ha! But truth be told, she is a horrible sleeper anyway so I will probably be coming to you for advice in a few.....
3) We must have the same taste in music.....oh yes I can tell that this album will be Off the Hook! Good music on a trip is an essential.
4) Went to the Alpine 9th Enrichment the other night and sat by your mom. Love her - and she updated me on the whole fam. Do you all have a 'freakin' awesome' gene or something? Wo - I am impressed.
5) Oh and for getting back to sleep - read your scriptures. Works like a charm every time.
love ya.
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