|I can hear her saying, "Who? Me?"|
My point in this post is not to embarrass the wee lass, it is to seek advice.
She is darling. She is fun. She is smart. She is sweet. She is a crazy kook. I adore her.
However, I don't love that she has been waking up in the middle of the night for the last few weeks. Usually it's because she's just wet the bed. Now, here's the kicker... she's been potty trained for over 7 months. She hardly ever had accidents, and in the day time, she's a machine. It's great. But, lately, she's been waking up cold and wet (well, warm... you get my drift).
First question: What do you do? ---Besides purchase a "liquid" resistant mattress pad. I decided last night to put her in pull ups ---which she didn't want to to, but I can't tell you how tired I am of washing sheets, mattress pads, pillow cases, actual PILLOWS (she's a crazy sleeper like her mom), and bed spread.
Next related story. One of the first nights, after she had an accident, I came in and she told me that she had spilled her water bottle. That's why she was wet. So, I quickly reach for her little water bottle thinking to myself, "Wow, I thought she peed her pants, but crazy that she decided to unscrew her water bottle..." Nope. It was a lie. Water bottle intact. Tightly closed. Full of water. Nope, this was definitely not from the water bottle.
So, I picked up Tillie and said calmly, "Hmmm... I don't think it was your water bottle. I think you had an accident. Right? You accidentally went pee pee in your pants?" And, she was adamant that it was her water bottle. Crying and saying, "No, mom. It was my drink. My drink spilled."
My mind was racing. Really? Is this my sweet little two year old blatantly lying to me? This has never happened? What is going on?
Keeping my cool, I said to her, "Tillie I think you had wet your pants. Did you have a little accident? It's okay if you did. When mom was a little girl, like Tillie, she sometimes had accidents too."
Finally, she admitted the truth. She did have an accident. And, in her words, "Didn't make it to the potty." I told her it was okay, talked about how it's okay to have accidents sometimes b/c I know that she knows where to go potty, and honestly, I was quite caring and sweet during the whole event. We had a little teaching moment. We got everyone cleaned up, she felt better, and we were off to bed.
But, I couldn't sleep. It was a sad reality. Yes, it stinks to wake up in the middle of the night knowing you are going to get to wash EVERYTHING again. And, it was a sad reality that my little girl was growing up---she had totally lied to my face. But, what was even MORE sad was me remembering how often I'd flipped when Tillie had accidents. I kept anaylzing why she had thought to lie to me, but soon realized, she was probably freaked out I'd lose my cool. I'd lie too if I were her!
Then, that spiraled into me feeling bad bad about my parenting---like, Why does she know more about those darn Disney Princesses than she does about the great scripture stories? Why do I expect so much out of her (her smarts are partly to blame, that girl is so mature), but sometimes I forget that she's only two!?! I need to spend more time doing fun things with her... etc.
So, I was up for a few hours figuring out ways to be better. Eventually, I was able to go back to sleep.
Anyway, that was two weeks ago. In the meantime, I've been trying harder to reform myself. I went out and bought the Standard Works in illustrated form to read to Matilda at night. I've been trying harder to do fun things with her in the day. And, I've been trying to be really patient.
But, Tillie has been having more accidents at night. So, back to my first question: WHAT DO I DO? Just buy the big pack of Pull Ups at Costco and have her wear them at night? Stick it out and eventually it will change (and keep washing everything night after night).
Next question, how do you go back to sleep? She's been consistently waking up around the 2-3 o'clock hour (sometimes bed wetting, and sometimes crying for random reasons (lips chapped, leg hurts, you name it, etc.), and after a little comfort she can go back to sleep. But, I have NOT been able to go back to sleep. It's like my mind won't stay quiet. So, I sit in bed for a few hours having revolving thoughts about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING and finally decide to do something---either work on wedding invites, respond back to emails, blog surf---whatever.
I'm not jiving on this new lifestyle. Nights are for sleeping. What gives? Please tell me some of you have gone through insomnia. Any advice?
Anyway, there's the 411. If you'd like to give your two cents, SPILL IT! asap. Let's work for a better and brighter tomorrow---oh wait, I guess it IS tomorrow.