"You can do anything, but not everything."
- david allen
I've been thinking about this idea for a long time, especially as of late... and then when I saw this pin on my dear friend's pinterest page last night, I was like, "AMEN! TRUTH!"
Why does the media tell us over and over and over that we CAN have it all?
Not to get all philosophical on you, but I recall a favorite scripture in Ecclesiastes (3:1) that says "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven."
The reason this topic is especially relevant because I recently had a mid-life crisis (of sorts). With the coming and passing of this spring's quilt market and the announcement of a most generous gift bestowed by my sister, Becca, of a brand-spanking-new website (she said we can get started now so it can be ready by my birthday in August), and the upcoming arrival of a new baby----well, I had a legitimate melt down, to be frank.
(a little drawing of Cal I made a few months ago)ETSY)? ---all these ideas were swimming in my brain. Several times Becca and Aaron kept asking me, "What is the goal of this website? What do you want it to do for you?"
(one of the billion patterns I've made)
That was a good question. I had no idea. And, I'm still not completely sure how it will all turn out... but it brought me to another question, "What do I want to do with my creative life right NOW?"
I do have time before this baby comes to use my creative brain (believe it or not, this isn't my first rodeo. In fact, it's my third. I'm quick to remember that life (as I know it) stops completely for the first 5-6 months of their tiny life, then we slowly return to a NEW normal).
(from my sketch book back when I went on tropical trip with Em to St. John)
Do I want to get crackin' on new listings for my shop? Finally post all the prints I've been creating? Create more announcements/invites for people? etc. Spend more time developing ideas for new patterns? Work on more fabric lines? Try to get a booth ready for Surtex (a surface design trade show where big companies see your booth/designs and enlist your skills to design paper/fabric/wrapping paper/bedding/mugs/plates/etc. for them).
(sketch book balloons to computer)
Anyway, I remember Aaron asking me one night, "Melissa, what if you were 'just' a mom? (I want to emphasize in no way was he belittling the concept of motherhood by saying 'just' a mom) You always talk about wanting to make dolls for Tillie, or do new paintings for the kids' room... why don't you take the time to do all those things?"
What a concept!!
Honestly, I've been completely satisfied doing projects/side jobs for people who email me to design things for them. And, if I've been busy or travelling, I have been able to easily say, "Sorry, it won't work for me right now." And, it's been fulfilling and wonderful and great. Why step it up and go into high gear right now? What is my rush?
(another bridal party job I did a few months ago)
Finishing that quilt I started (ahem... over four years ago).
Making that maxi skirt I bought fabric for (over a year ago)---p.s. I just made two this past weekend. Bam!
Finishing huge mantel painting I started for fall/winter season.
Finally start making some home-made dolls with Tillie.
Start making lots of place-mats (I've really been into this idea lately).
Drawing in my sketch book more.
Another resolution? Sure. (Let's pretend it's January.)
In light of the concept "I can do anything, but not everything." I've decided that if my house is really clean by the end of the day, that dinner takes the back seat. And, vice versa. If we have a really good meal planned/created, the house is going to be a disaster. It's how we roll. I'm learning BOTH can't happen these days (well, maybe they could with a live-in Nanny, but that's not happening in this lifetime).
Here's to mid-life crises. Here's to starting and finishing projects. Here's to putting energy into people/things that matter most. Here's to realizing that we CAN do ANYthing, but not EVERYthing.